The Widely Misunderstood Brolita

A Brolita pen pal of mine

Imagine you were looking on the internet at this cute, adorable well dressed young girl wearing the most amazing Lolita dress and striking a super adorable pose. You'd stare at the picture and wonder who it was right...what if you discovered they were a guy...would you get freaked out?

To the Lolita community a male wearer of Lolita Fashion is commonly known as a 'Brolita'. Just like the female counterparts they enjoy dressing up and wearing cute and elegant Lolita clothing. Many males wanting to wear Loita Fashion generally stick to the more masculine styles such as Ouji or Kodona. Yet the 'Brolita's as they are commonly known, are the ones that generally cross the line drawn by society and dress themselves to their best in cute Lolita garments.

Many people mistake and greatly misunderstand Brolita's. Many assume it to be a weird fetish, or claim that a guy dressing up in this way is a ridiculous notion. Yet Brolita's are human just like us, and very much the same as every other Lolita on the planet.

Just like girls who wear Lolita Fashion, not everyone gets it right. There will be guys even after many years of being in the fashion who still may look ita, and people who call their garments Lolita when they are clearly not. Yet those guys who wear Lolita the right way and follow all the rules, are still Lolita's.

Mana

These guys wear the clothes for the same reasons anyone else would. They may wear them to feel pretty, be creative or just to feel happy. Some people think that a guy wearing Lolita Fashion is a concept so hard to fathom, but why should the men miss out on all the fun? Some guys can even wear Lolita Fashion better than some females.

Societies views on what is and isn't feminine is what really ruins it for men. A guy can't wear a dress because that is what 'man' has decided. Since the beginning of time dresses have been considered something worn by only females, so a male wanting to dress this way is considered wrong. What you call feminine and masculine is only one person's view and perspective on life, if a man wants to wear a dress then he should be able to. He may not even consider it to be feminine, he may just like it. There is nothing wrong with a male being into this fashion, or even cross dressing in general if it is done right. If it isn't harming you then there is nothing wrong with it.

Also believe it or not Mana is a guy...

Being a Lolita you probably would have heard of him in some shape or form, even if you do not know about him exactly. Mana is a Japanese musician and fashion designer best known for his role as lead guitarist in the Visual Kei band Malice Mizer. His clothing label Moi-même-Moitié helped popularise Gothic Lolita Fashion, and helped to evolve it into the Fashion we know today.

Yes a popular and very significant Lolita Fashion idol is in fact a guy. If this guy can be so greatly respected, why can not all other males in the Lolita Fashion community be respected as well?

Also another thing that would be worth checking out is this Lolita Fashion documentary called Sugar Coated. It shows the views of a small minority of individuals within the Fashion community, and in fact has a brolita in it. This will help you get a better understanding of how they feel wearing the clothes they do, and exactly why they do it.